Do you know this feeling? Set up by someone else to meet with somebody you have only ever heard about, maybe a picture if you’ve Googled their name. You meet at the designated time, date & place and lo and behold they are late. You’re feeling nervous with butterflies and sweaty palms, will they like me, what will they ask and I am ready?
You meet and first impressions are lasting impressions. You like them but you think that you talked too much and really unsure that the pink shirt worked! You walk away hoping that you get another chance; however fleeting.
You sit by the phone the next day, waiting to hear from them, hoping they want to see you again. A week has passed and nothing, don’t just let me down gently, just let me down! Then a call out of the blue, a request to meet the parents; you are a bit over the delay but heck it’s probably worth seeing where and how they live.
The big day comes and you arrive at their plush surroundings, clearly they have been successful and this makes you even more nervous. The paid help greets you and you notice that your prospective beloved has temporarily disappeared in some other part of the surroundings. Doesn’t bother you and you settle in for another assessment of suitability and fit for the “family”. You have just half an hour to make a decision of a lifetime; these are obviously busy people but is that enough time to qualify my credentials and potential?
And then it goes quiet for 2 weeks and I wonder have they spoken to my friends? I will be sure to tell them what this family is like. Do they want me? Do I want them crosses my mind as I keep searching for more dates. We could have worked out so well!
My matchmaker calls with good news, I am in and the official 2nd date is confirmed however it’s for a trial 6 months whilst we figure out if it will work, no formal marriage proposal yet but I have time to impress!
Sound familiar? This experience of work includes the pre-employment stage of recruitment; somebody needs to tell the parents.